Author: Elizabeth Jaranilla

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Family

How Do We Parent – Giving Discipline with Love

parenting-featuredNo one really taught us to be parents even our parents.  Parenting is something we learn as we have our own. We see our parents as we grown up, how they love and discipline us. (Don’t get me wrong with this I love my parents) but at times there is something we see that they are doing wrong or we just don’t understand why they did that.

As I became one (a parent), my husband and I had a fear on how to bring up our baby. We had thoughts of maybe we might miss lead our baby, how to guide him properly, how should we respond properly if we are mad, how to apply discipline with love, maybe our discipline is over and etc. And I think many parents can relate with this dilemma. With this fear lingering in our thoughts, we never forget to pray and ask God for His guidance and co-parent with us in our family. I get our confidence and assurance from Him.

I’ll share to you how we base and apply our parenting by concepts (This is also based on the reading plan I’m reading through my mobile bible app). This will be in series (para hindi mahaba and boring basahin) 😀

 

Discipline and Love

We all know it’s hard to give consequence to their bad choice but we should think “What is the most loving thing we can do for our child?” Is it to just to let go and not giving them correction without learning or give them the consequence they earned to learn the lesson God designed for them.

A good consequence is given with understanding and care, applied with love and the respect for the freedom of choosing and his ability to learn from the consequence of a bad decision.

As stated in the Bible from…

Hebrews 12:11 (NIV)
“No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”

and

Proverbs 3:12

“…Because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in.”

 

Discipline, Character and Hope

When our children suffer their consequence from their bad choices, our initial action is to save them or just want to protect them to not experience those pains and hurts. But what we are really doing is preventing them to learn. God’s plan is to mature a person through their trials.

“Character-building lessons are rarely learned from the triumphs of life. Rather, it is the trials in our lives that teach us how to persevere despite the pain.” – Parenting by Design (Mobile Bible App)

When we inhibit our children from experiencing their trials, we inhibit their chance to grow, build their character, and learn to continue in hoping in the Lord.

In Romans 5:3-5 (NIV) states that…

“Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.” – Romans 5:3-5 (NIV)

 

How do we apply it? 

Right now, Pao-pao is now in his “Trouble-Two’s” stage in which he is exploring, learning and experiencing. When he do something that isn’t nice, we give him the rod or talk to him. We just give the rod on the hands, lower legs or butt. We don’t do it anywhere else and in moderation meaning not too hard. Just enough to let him feel a sting. And not many times, most is at 2. We give it only when he does something consecutively not good or something that is too much. As much as we can, we talk to him.  At times, it hurts to give him that because you can see him crying (even if you give it not that hard). Then after he has cried, we explain to him why we do it and explain what he has done wrong for us to give that. And we tell him that we love him, we want him to learn that’s why we are doing that.

But you know, when we have establish that (“If he does something isn’t good, his consequence will be the rod”), we have given him the rod lesser. He now knows that if he does or continues doing something isn’t good, he will receive the rod. But of course we remind him of that and then he stops and says sorry.

Just a reminder, don’t give the rod if you are in anger but instead in love. Always keep in mind, you are doing that because you love you child. And if in anger, you might abuse the rod.

 

I hope this brings added knowledge and enlightenment. Hope that you all like this and follow the next part.

Thank you… 😀

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Thoughts

Reviving my blog

Happy 2013!!!

It’s been a long time since I last submitted any entry to my blog. I want to share and blog a lot of things but I was too busy with our business and taking care of my family. Not until I read a blog of my friend, I got inspired. She is a work at home mom and has started her blog recently. When I got the chance to read her first entry, the urge of putting my thoughts (same as hers) online and sharing it to others whether it might help or not, but hopefully yes, just got fired-up. Thanks Eve Gozon for inspiring me again! 😀 Kindly support and visit her blog. Here is the link http://sweetbom.wordpress.com/.

This is just my warm-up entry as I gather my thoughts to my next entry. Definitely, this time I will be consistent in posting my entries. Hehehe! Follow me as share to you my experiences, thoughts and tips. See you soon on my next entry!!!

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Family

Requirements for PhilHealth Claim

When our baby, Pao-pao, got confined..we needed to prepare the requirement for Philhealth to be able to get a claim to lessen our expenses for the hospital. And it was really a great help for us…it maybe not the whole amount but it was a great less.

Here’s are some tips and list of requirements.

REQUIREMENTS:

    • CF1 FORM

You can get this from the hospital or download it at www.philhealth.gov.ph. Fill your information together with the patient’s information then give it to your employer to be filled-up.

    • CERTIFICATE OF CONTRIBUTION

This is a certificate of your contribution to PhilHealth from your employer. It should state at least 6 months of contribution. Stating your participating amount, date of payment and OR number.

    • MDR (Member Data Record)

This your record from Philhealth together with your beneficiaries. This is a proof that your are registered at Philhealth. You can get this at any Philhealth center near you.

    • PROOF OF RELATION

If the patient is not registered with your Philhealth (shown in your MDR), you need to provide this requirement.
If the patient is your spouse, you need a Marriage Certificate. And if the patient is your child, parent, or sibling, you need their Birth Certificate.

TIPS:

    • COMPLETE AND COMPILE AHEAD OF TIME

Prepare all the documents needed prior to confinement or as early as the day of confinement. It is easier to get the claim when it is included in your bill than reimbursing it after the confinement.

    • ASK YOUR DOCTOR

Ask you doctor, if he/she is accepting Philhealth. So that they will be informed that they have to deduct Philhealth from their charge.

    • KNOW YOUR BENEFITS

You should know the maximum allowance you can claim. Click HERE to see the benefit table.

    • SUBMIT REQUIREMENTS

Submit all the documents and requirements prior to the check-out at the hospital; so that if the hospital has an additional requirements or things to be changed, you will still have time to take care of it. And with this manner, your check-out will be processed easily.

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Family

Pao’s First Hospital Confinement

Last July 11, 2011, Pao-pao was sick with colds and cough and he’s having a hard time with it. His sickness is about 3 days already.

And later that day, we noticed that he was having a hard time breathing not the typical cough and cold. It is like he was having a asthma. We continued to observe him the whole night, and I wasn’t able to sleep. I was afraid that if I sleep, i’ll find him not breathing anymore. Paranoia hits me!

The following day, we decided to bring him to the doctor and have him checked. Hoping that the doctor will just give him prescription then we’ll go home after……..but in our surprise…..immediately after checking his chest, the doctor said that he has to be confined because of SEVERE ASTHMA AND PNEUMONIA and said “Buti he was able to survive the night with his condition”. We were shocked that Pao’s condition was really that serious. Immediately, we arranged his confinement without thinking of the expenses.

Simultaneously, while arranging his room he was already being medicated at the ER. After that, it was time for the dextrose to be put. He was laid in the bed and covered his body with a blanket, leaving one of his hand exposed. When he was being injected, he was crying so loud. I got teary-eyed… as if I was also feeling the pain. I said to the nurse…”Kung pwede lang sana na ako yung lagayan ng dextrose for him”. Nakakaawa talaga! After the procedure is done…..I hugged and comforted him….WAWA BABY BOY!

After all are settled down at the hospital…we we’re already very anxious when will he be cleared to go home, thinking and hoping the following day he can go home already. (Thinking also the bills that we’ll pay..hehehe! We know that we don’t have any money to pay for this.)

The next day, when the doctor visited, I asked her when can Pao go home,….”Maybe later this day? or baka tomorrow morning???” (Laughing after that). She said “Kakapasok nyo lang, gusto nyo na lumabas agad…mga 3 – 4 days sya or until his chest is cleared”….Grabe, tagal pa! (Thinking about it).

Fast Forward:What we did was pray for Pao’s fast healing and recovery and gathered resources as much as we can..then trust God for the rest. “We can only do so much, but God can do all things”. We are just limited on things that we can do….as much as we want to do things….it is not enough. But with GOD….He will complete the things that we cannot.

On the third day (not sure if pao is going home), we went to arrange documents for the PhilHealth claim. I went to the NSO at Muntinlupa and Wil waited for the certification.  While I was filling for the birth certificate of Pao…the lunchbreak cut-off is near. I’ll have to wait until afterlunch for the document to be released…Eh I was in a hurry to go back to the hospital kasi baka lumabas na si Pao. I was praying na “Lord, sana hindi ako maabutan ng cut-off” again and again. Then when it was my turn to pay, I saw in my receipt that I have to wait until after lunch for the document’s release. So I just settled with it…thinking “Okay nalang, atleast today pa din irerelease rather than tomorrow pa yung release”.

After waiting for just a few minutes, a man named “Edward” came to me and said “Ms. Elizabeth…Tapos na po, ginawa ko na…hintayin mo nalang sandali nalang yun”. I was very surprise and really really happy. He added “Taga VCF ka po pala…kinasal kayo sa VCF Galeria” I said “Pano mo nalaman???….taga VCF ka din”. He replied “Yes, sa VCF Alabang”..then we went out for his break. Isn’t that amazing???? Coincident???? NO….I call it God’s work. I believe that, if God doesn’t want it to happen…it will not! And if God wants it and it will happen. After getting the certificate, I left there with so much amazement and happiness of God’s work.

Later that day, we were able to go home and just continued his medication. With God’s grace and guidance, we were able to surpass that situation…emotional and financial stress. God is so faithful!


“My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth”

– Psalm 121:2


“The Lord will keep you from all harm – he will watch over your life;

the Lord will watch over your coming and going both now and forevermore”

– Psalm 121:7-8


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Faith

How To Find Your Soulmate

Do you believe in SOULMATES?… Finding your one perfect match in this entire world?… The one who will complete you?…

A related concept is that of the twin flame or twin soul, which is thought to be the ULTIMATE SOULMATE.

We, girls, have a thought of our IDEAL MAN. We may have a different perspective or characteristics of this ideal man but all of us have our own idea of what we want with our lifetime partner. It may be a tall, dark and handsome or an intelligent, funny and chubby guy that you want…but how will you find him?? Go on a man hunt, post on tabloids, print on fliers, or what so ever. But really, how will you find your soulmate??????

Here are 3 simple but effective ways how to find your soulmate.

3 SIMPLE STEPS

1. Fix our eyes on the SOULMAKER

Who is our SOULMAKER? ….It is GOD. Since we are looking for our soulmate, who knows best about our soulmate of course the soulmaker. He knows that one person he made for us. We should first be in one with the God before anything else…it means we should know Him and have relationship. If we follow Him and obey His commands, he will also give the desires of our heart….given that it is according to His will and if this is what he thinks is best for us.

“Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart.” – Psalm 37:4 NIV


2. Fix YOURSELF first

We should fix ourself! Sometimes, we have traumas in our previous relationships or from our childhood experiences. This issues, when not resolved, are baggage and they are burden. It sometimes seems we have forgotten those events or memories but the pain made is still there and engraved. If not resolved, we tend to carry it over to our next relationships. And this comes the problem..for example, from your previous relationship you were hurt because you were two timed, it will cause you to loose your trust. Then to your next relationship, everything he does will make you suspicious and doubt even there is none. Trust is really important in a relationship to work. Because your trust is not yet healed, you will carry it over.

How can you have a relationship when you still carry on with all your baggages??????

Another is when the reason of finding your soulmate is just to complete what is missing in you or filling the emptiness you are feeling. God should complete you! In Him, we find security, peace and love. For if we find our completeness in another person, we still cannot feel complete because all human being are imperfect and inconsistent. We tend to make mistakes and fall short. But God is perfect and consistent with His love for us. He loves us unconditionally even if we are not lovable.

In order for us to have a lasting relationship, we should be both complete in God. That if ever, a person leaves us we won’t be shuttered and broken into pieces for we know God completes us and nobody else.

Sometimes, we may find our soulmate already but because we are still not ready and we hurried things up because of our impatience, things go wrong and become a disaster rather than our happily ever after. We should pursue God first to help us be ready so that everything may go smooth according to God’s plan.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” – Jeremiah 29:11


3. Fix your STANDARDS

We have different standards in choosing or looking for our soulmate. We nay want intelligence, physical, values and etc. But we should base our standards in God’s standards. Our standards are just superficial. We want to have an ideal relationship but sometimes our standards are not. If we want to have a popular, somehow bad boy and eyed by all the girls…do you expect to have a working relationship??? I think not.  Let’s say maybe not all but majority, those kinds of guys are the one’s who still loves to play around. And you want to be one of them???

If you base your standards according to God’s standard, surely you won’t make a mistake. What are God’s standard?? …Godly, Loves God more than you, and is God fearing. Surely, if he loves God more than you he will do everything to make things right, work-out and will truly love you.

This steps are simple but is very effective than any tips you can find out there. Why waste time in looking????  Why not focus on being prepared and ready when that soulmate comes.

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Uncategorized

Spark of Love

Whether you are SEARCHING, WAITING, PRAYING for Love, or already found “THE ONE” this is for you.

Orange Dance Studio and Spark invites you to SPARK OF LOVE.

This month, we are going to talk about SOULMATES. Is there really a soulmate for each one of us???? Let’s together find it out together. Join us on a 2 hour of non-stop fun! There will be games, music, stories, food and an inspirational talk. Registration for the event is required.

For registration you can go to http://www.spark.wil-j.com/ for an online registration or you can text us at 09228926552 (SUN) or 09178926552 (GLOBE).

This February’s debut event of Spark is open for Orange Dance Studio’s students only. Thank you!

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Business

Tips on Business Registration

Finally, I have completely registered our business.  I thought at first, registering our business is hard because I’m really new with this kind of stuff but when I personally experience the process of doing the registration, it wasn’t hard but it was tiring. You have to accomplish a lot of  requirements that are prerequisite to one another.

Here are some tips to make your registration easy.

  1. First, know the list of requirements and their sub-requirements you need from the city your business is going to be put up and make a check list.

This will guide you to remember the steps, process and requirements you need to go through. It will help you to be organized and won’t go back several times to filling offices.

Requirements in Makati City:

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  • DTI registration
    • Registration Application Form
    • Birth Certificate
    • TIN
    • ID
  • Lease of Contract (if you are renting) / Certificate of Tax or Tax Declaration (if owned)
  • Barangay Clearance (for business)
    • DTI Registration / Certificate
    • Lease of Contract / Certificate of Tax r Tax Declaration (if owned)
  • Occupancy Permit
  • Locational Clearance
    • DTI Registration
    • Lease of Contract / Certificate of Tax r Tax Declaration (if owned)
    • Occupancy Permit
    • Brgy. Clearance
  • Liability Insurance
  • Business Permit
    • DTI Registration / Certificate
    • DTI Application Form
    • Lease of Contract
    • Occupancy Permit
    • Brgy. Clearance
    • Locational Clearance
    • Liability Insurance
    • Sanitary Permit (this is included when you are already paid and fully accomplished with the business permit)
  • BIR Registered
    • DTI Registration / Certificate
    • Business Permit or if you have a Business Permit Application Form (You can only have a form when your requirements are complete)

Sometimes not all cities have the same or exact requirements but this is some what all the major ones have.

2. Don’t be afraid to ask, inquire or research.

If you have any questions or clarifications regarding the process of filling and requirements, don’t hesitate to ask the staffs of the government office you are in. It will make you filling a lot easier. They give you the things you need and the process you have to undergo.

That’s what I did and it surely helped me a lot! This a great habit to practice. You can do this even to other situations.

3. File all documents and requirements to one folder or envelop and bring them always.

File your personal documents (birth certificate, marriage certificate, IDs, cedula, etc.) and registration requirements in one filer. Keep even the receipts of the payment you have made for the requirements and registrations. Always bring all of  them every time you are filling, you may not know what you’ll need. And by this, it will lessen the tendency that you may forget the requirements.

In experience, I didn’t thought of that when I applied for my DTI, so what happened was I was forced to change the name of our business due to my lack of documents. It is great hassle for me to go home and get the requirements, that’s why I did that. From then on, I kept on bringing all the requirements. And I wasn’t wrong about that. On many instances bringing all of them helped me to fasten the process of application.

4. AVOID FIXER!!

You should not trust fixers! Besides that it is illegal those people tend to manipulate you to gain money. They make excuses that your application is being delayed, the person who is processing your application is asking for money, you need to pay this and that, and many things but the truth is part of that money will also go to them.

It is better that you personally file your applications so that you will know the abouts of the registration process, your rights, fees to pay, etc. This will protect you from deceivers.

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Business

Business Registration Part I

I’ve been trying to work on the registration of our business for a few years now but there are a lot of unseen and unfortunate circumstances that keeps on hindering me in the process. Like when my dad died, too late for the registration for a new business, requirements that I don’t have, location problem and other things. And now after so many years of planning and attempting to register our business, we are almost finish with all the requirements. YEHEY!! At last!

Last January 21, 2011 (Friday), I was able to accomplish the locational clearance, insurance, cedula and fully filled  & notarized business permit application form. WHOA! 2 more steps (the filing of all the requirements for business permit and BIR registration), then we’re DONE!

Here is my check list for our business to be fully registered (Registering for a new business):
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  • DTI registration
  • Our office location and address
  • Lease of Contract
  • Barangay Clearance
  • Locational Clearance
  • Liability Insurance
  • Notarized Business Application Form

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  • Business Permit
  • BIR Registered

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I thought I can accomplish everything by the end of January but again not. 🙁 ….. I just found out that the registration for a new business will start on February. I’ll be delayed for a few days in accomplishing all that we need. But at least I’m closer to my goal. 😀  Hehehehe! Im just so excited that all our efforts will be paid-off.

Then after that…..CLIENT HUNTING!!!! GO…GO…GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Thoughts

How will I start my blog???

Before, I wanted to write a lot of things and share every moment and thoughts I had but now that I’m already starting I don’t know what to blog about and just an empty idea. So instead, for now I’m going to write an opening article just to jump start my blog. Hehe. Currently, when I launch my first and official blog post, it will only be me who’ll know about it and of course, my loving and ever supportive husband. (Love you Daddy).

My husband was the one who encouraged me to have my own blog. At first, I wasn’t that interested of having one because I don’t have time to blog….(But you know what’s the truth, it was just my excuse…hehehe…. I’m just not interested at all). What changed my mind?????…………. Of course my hubby and while reading other’s blog. I also want to share to my family, friends and others the things I’ve experienced and learned. Isn’t that nice that you get to help other people just by sharing your life’s story? and share how God works magnificently in my life and family’s. And hopefully I will blog more….more…..more…..and more! Hehehe!